Like a 12 ton boulder with a 16,000 lbs agenda, guilt is no fun especially when it’s resting on your shoulders. By definition guilt means “a cognitive or an emotional experience that occurs when a person realizes or believes—accurately or not—that he or she has violated a moral standard, and bears significant responsibility for that violation.” Key words being “accurately or not” for many us, myself, making up things to feel guilty over can be just as bad if not worse, than feeling guilty or a major infraction (like running over a friend accidentally – or purposefully depending on the friend).
Joking aside, when you’re knee-deep in guilt, it can be hard to find peace on a day to day basis. Why? Because worry is guilt’s little sister and believe me she’s a bitch of a demon child: Like Children of the Corn meets that Raggedy Anne Doll who sits behind glass in the Warren Museum. Worrying is like sending a signal out to the universe that the only place for you to go is down. That’s because each emotion has its own energy frequency and each frequency registers on a scale of high to low. Obviously emotions like love and happiness (Uncle Al Green) are way up on the ladder of good feelings while shame and anger sit below the belt.
In the book, How to Hypnotize Yourself and Others, author Rachel Copeland writes that “without realizing what we are doing, some of us cling to memories as a self-punishing device because we are too guilt-ridden to allow ourselves the pleasure that comes with being guilt-free.” Indeed, it can be said that letting go of things that drag our hearts in the mud is the best way to free ourselves and our emotions to make HIGHER and more happier choices. Now many of you may believe that I am high for saying this right now. I’m not but that’s fine. I can only speak from personal experience – and I’ll tell ya, it’s a lot easier living on the flip-side of poopy time and a hell of a lot more fun. No one wants to carry a heavier load than they can handle, your mind included. If you’re feeling something that’s holding you back or bringing you down, understand that you have the power to change it.
It certainly can be difficult to let go of the things you feel responsible for – or the things you don’t. Keep that in mind that you are greater than all the burdens you place on yourself. Our life plan is to be happy, joyful and full of love. For love is joy and the more love you give, the more joy you will receive. If you feel a bit bogged down by a situation, ask yourself if feeling guilty about it will make YOU feel better or worse? Put your happiness before your guilt and you’ll find yourself feeling better. Celebrate, love and accept your individuality. You have the freedom to choose, which includes the choice to overwhelm yourself with problems and turmoil, or not. Remember if we control our minds by choosing what kind of feelings we want to experience, we can control and change our overall experience – many times, for the better.